The Love Dare - Day One Update
Good morning everyone!!! Hope y'all are all settled back in to the work week now that the holiday weekend is over. It sure wasn't easy but I'm getting there. ;) So how did everyone do with last week's dare? As always, at first it was pretty easy for me. After a few days though it gets harder. I think I am so used to everything that my husband does and I have a habit of responding in an aggravated, impatient way. I know it's going to take longer than a week to break me of that but I think I did a pretty good job last week. What makes it so hard for me is when you are trying to be patient but he isn't aware that you are so he makes no attempt at being easy to get along with. I think THAT is what this is all about though. Being able to be patient and loving even when it's not easy. I am excited for this week's dare and I hope y'all are too!!
Day Two - Love is kind.
"Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you." - Eph 4:32
Kindness is love in action. If patience is how love reacts in order to minimize a negative circumstance, kindness is how love acts to maximize a positive circumstance. Patience avoids a problem; kindness creates a blessing. One is preventive, the other proactive.
Love makes you kind. And kindness makes you likeable. When you're kind, people want to be around you. They see you as being good to them and good for them.
"Do not let kindness and truth leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. So you will find favor and good repute in the sight of God and man" (Proverbs 3:3-4). Kind people simply find favor wherever they go. Even at home. Let's break kindness down into four basic core ingredients:
Gentleness. When you're operating from kindness, you're careful how you treat your spouse, never being unnecessarily harsh. You're sensitive. Tender. Even if you need to say hard things, you'll bend over backwards to make your rebuke or challenge as easy to hear as possible.
Helpfulness. Kindness graces a wife with the ability to serve her husband without worrying about her rights. Kindness makes a husband curious to discover what his wife needs, then motivates him to be the one who steps up and ensures those needs are met-even if his are put on hold.
Willingness. Kindness inspires you to be agreeable. Rather than complaining and making excuses, you look for reasons to compromise and accomodate.
Initiative. Kindness thinks ahead, then takes the first step. It doesn't sit around waiting to be prompted or coerced before getting off the couch. The kind husband or wife will be the one who greets first, smiles first, serves first, and forgives first.
Wasn't kindness one of the key things that drew you and your spouse together in the first place? When you married, weren't you expecting to enjoy his or her kindness for the rest of your life? Didn't your mate feel the same way about you? Even though the years can take the edge off that desire, your enjoyment in marriage is still linked to the daily level of kindness expressed.
How would your husband or wife describe you on the kindness meter? How harsh are you? How gentle and helpful? Do you wait to be asked, or do you take the initiative to help? Don't wait for your spouse to be kind first.
In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse again this week, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.
After completing this dare, please answer the following questions in your own notebook but also please share with us your answers too!!
What discoveries about love did you make this week? What specifically did you do in this dare? How did you show kindness?
-Taken from The Love Dare by Stephen & Alex Kendrick with Lawrence Kimbrough